For me, the worst part of divorce is that my relationship with my boys has been forever changed. The best way – God’s plan – is that divorce never happens and children always live with their parents. Over the last fifteen years I’ve done a sometimes good and sometimes bad job of keeping a good relationship with them. I suspect I could have done better. I’m proud of them and love them but feel I could have been more influential in their lives.
And the non-custodial parent – that’s what the court calls me – gets four days a month to be with the kids. At least that’s how it was in my case since their mother moved 120+ miles away. I missed a lot of games and plays and concerts and just everyday living that you can’t really experience through a phone call. I missed the Tooth Fairy, PTA, lunch at school… They could probably create a longer list than I can.
Now I have two grown men and I still want to influence their lives. I want them to be godly men. In order to influence them in this way I have to be a good example. I can’t miss these opportunities.